Marital sex life can become monotonous and uncreative with the passing of time, triggering in the lack of pleasure. In this way, alternatives arise to return the passion.
One of the most frequent fantasies is to imagine that the couple is having sex with another, what is known as swinger experiences, as explained to Infobae, Walter Ghedin, Doctor psychiatrist and Sexologist (MN 74,794). "To be encouraged to put it in words during the sexual encounter is a sure source of much excitement, as long as there is agreement between the parties to nurture those stimuli," he added.
However, for Ghedin, of the said to the fact there is a stretch and "to convert the classic duet to link in a trio," an affair, or an equitable exchange with other couples requires previous talks, mutual commitment and the assurance that the option of sharing the bed with another, or others, can be a bold way to enrich the bond or avoid infidelity.
The swinger activity is a shared practice that aims at the symbiosis of Pleasure (istock)
The swinger activity is a shared practice that aims at the symbiosis of Pleasure (istock)
It differs from the other practices as it is somewhat shared as a couple. Where a symbiosis of pleasure is achieved
A practice installed in Argentina for more than 25 years, which does not distinguish age. It is estimated that there are 10 thousand couples participating. Today, this phenomenon is not only manifested between marriages but also in newly formed couples that do not exceed 35 years. "Before the appearance and diffusion of swingers movements, deciding the inclusion of others in the bed was an alternative that only a few transgressors or pleasure seekers were encouraged to try," explained the specialist.
The pattern of not engaging emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture into the new. "These movements gave birth, permissiveness, ideological framework (to break with the stereotype of fidelity as a rule because for the thought swinger this favors the behaviors of deceit) and also postulates the monogamy emotional or loving, but not the sexual," highlighted Ghedin.
However, the specialist raises one of the fears that arise before this practice: "Can we say that the presence of the partner itself having sex before our eyes increases sexual arousal?" "And love towards the other?" highlighted Ghedin.
"In this way, he explained that the excitement is based on the double role of being the protagonist and spectator of the sexual scene." The look of voyeur fulfills the function that previously had the fantasy, "said the expert.
The pattern of not committing emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture to the new (istock)
The pattern of not committing emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture to the new (istock)
There are also deeper aspects from the subjective point of view that root in the same construction of the couple bond: because I possess you I share.
Rules
The guidelines of the Exchange agreement are strict and clear: no affective commitment to the people invited to participate, the obligatory use of the condom; "He is not no" when the person or the couple rejects the offer.
"People who agree on this type of proposal have a good ability to dissociate the image of the other," Who is loved, accompanies daily life and common projects, to focus attention (and enjoyment) on that aspect of the other that cuts almost exclusively as a sexual subject, "added Ghedin.
Including third parties in bed, sharing or accepting to have "open couples" are different ways to realize desires and fantasies
In some cases lies the idea of avoiding the pain of deceit that produces infidelity, in others is a "test" or "challenge" to prove love to link, and in other cases, it will be by simple desires or desire to go through new sexual practices.
The problems arise when the pre-established rules are not fulfilled and/or when it is imperatively necessary to repeat the meetings, because without them, the pleasure that could provide the relationship of two is not enough. People or couples who choose these practices should know how to get in and out of them without further impact than obtaining a sexual enjoyment plus. At all they should generate guilt, self-reproach or binding conflict, hence each must be sure of the possible emotional repercussions.
Specialist Tips
-Think well in the pros and cons and ties.
-Agree with the couple this type of practice.
-Not to emotional commitment.
-Avoid risky situations such as street "lifts" or strangers.
-There are clubs or meeting places for people who like to share sex games.
-Mandatory condom use
-Try to make it a practice more and not the only way to get high levels of sexual pleasure.
One of the most frequent fantasies is to imagine that the couple is having sex with another, what is known as swinger experiences, as explained to Infobae, Walter Ghedin, Doctor psychiatrist and Sexologist (MN 74,794). "To be encouraged to put it in words during the sexual encounter is a sure source of much excitement, as long as there is agreement between the parties to nurture those stimuli," he added.
However, for Ghedin, of the said to the fact there is a stretch and "to convert the classic duet to link in a trio," an affair, or an equitable exchange with other couples requires previous talks, mutual commitment and the assurance that the option of sharing the bed with another, or others, can be a bold way to enrich the bond or avoid infidelity.
The swinger activity is a shared practice that aims at the symbiosis of Pleasure (istock)
The swinger activity is a shared practice that aims at the symbiosis of Pleasure (istock)
It differs from the other practices as it is somewhat shared as a couple. Where a symbiosis of pleasure is achieved
A practice installed in Argentina for more than 25 years, which does not distinguish age. It is estimated that there are 10 thousand couples participating. Today, this phenomenon is not only manifested between marriages but also in newly formed couples that do not exceed 35 years. "Before the appearance and diffusion of swingers movements, deciding the inclusion of others in the bed was an alternative that only a few transgressors or pleasure seekers were encouraged to try," explained the specialist.
The pattern of not engaging emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture into the new. "These movements gave birth, permissiveness, ideological framework (to break with the stereotype of fidelity as a rule because for the thought swinger this favors the behaviors of deceit) and also postulates the monogamy emotional or loving, but not the sexual," highlighted Ghedin.
However, the specialist raises one of the fears that arise before this practice: "Can we say that the presence of the partner itself having sex before our eyes increases sexual arousal?" "And love towards the other?" highlighted Ghedin.
"In this way, he explained that the excitement is based on the double role of being the protagonist and spectator of the sexual scene." The look of voyeur fulfills the function that previously had the fantasy, "said the expert.
The pattern of not committing emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture to the new (istock)
The pattern of not committing emotionally is one of the obligations to be fulfilled to venture to the new (istock)
There are also deeper aspects from the subjective point of view that root in the same construction of the couple bond: because I possess you I share.
Rules
The guidelines of the Exchange agreement are strict and clear: no affective commitment to the people invited to participate, the obligatory use of the condom; "He is not no" when the person or the couple rejects the offer.
"People who agree on this type of proposal have a good ability to dissociate the image of the other," Who is loved, accompanies daily life and common projects, to focus attention (and enjoyment) on that aspect of the other that cuts almost exclusively as a sexual subject, "added Ghedin.
Including third parties in bed, sharing or accepting to have "open couples" are different ways to realize desires and fantasies
In some cases lies the idea of avoiding the pain of deceit that produces infidelity, in others is a "test" or "challenge" to prove love to link, and in other cases, it will be by simple desires or desire to go through new sexual practices.
The problems arise when the pre-established rules are not fulfilled and/or when it is imperatively necessary to repeat the meetings, because without them, the pleasure that could provide the relationship of two is not enough. People or couples who choose these practices should know how to get in and out of them without further impact than obtaining a sexual enjoyment plus. At all they should generate guilt, self-reproach or binding conflict, hence each must be sure of the possible emotional repercussions.
Specialist Tips
-Think well in the pros and cons and ties.
-Agree with the couple this type of practice.
-Not to emotional commitment.
-Avoid risky situations such as street "lifts" or strangers.
-There are clubs or meeting places for people who like to share sex games.
-Mandatory condom use
-Try to make it a practice more and not the only way to get high levels of sexual pleasure.
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